There was this emptiness that I felt would go on forever. To me, both seemed a spiritual state of mind. But the grief I was feeling manifested in tears every moment I thought of going on without her. My family and my daughter especially were very supportive. My mind was not letting me put two consecutive thoughts together. He said there were other people in the world feeling the same way I did, grieving a loved one. He told me to reach out and get into a grief support group. About a week later, I was crying and trying to calm myself, thinking how and where to find help.
That day, I received a phone call from a staff member at LifePath Hospice. She wanted to know how I was dealing with the passing of my wife, Betty. I viewed it as a message coming from an unknown source at just the right time. I told the person who called that I felt lost. The support group was eight weeks total, with weekly Tuesday meetings.
I joined not knowing what to expect. It turned out to be just what I needed at just the right time. My vision was such that, maybe in different ways, those of us in the group had the same grief of missing part of ourselves. Every Tuesday night, we became an extended family, and we journeyed this wilderness of grief together.
The group became a part of my support system.
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Some way and somehow, each of our grief was a little different, but we were all hurting. Could someone or something be reaching out to you? LifePath Hospice is there to fulfill its calling of helping grief-stricken individuals and families. If you are in need or know someone who is, please hear the calling and accept. Note: Grief support groups are open to the community, regardless of whether the loved one received hospice care. You can access our current calendars on our Grief Services page here.
He was helping to support his own sons from a previous relationship. He had moved me into his home because i could no longer live alone because of my health and financial situation. So, yeah, i asked why him? Why not me? He had melanoma. Deadly skin cancer that none of knew he had until it was far too late to stop it. Why my Son? There were so many people at his Celebration the other night. They all had wonderful things to say.
He had touched and helped so many people in his life. My heart goes out to you Monica. My husband died almost 2 years ago. What do we call ourselves now? Why do men who are widowed seem to marry sooner and create a new family, while it seems the female version is not, and she is like that widow of Zarephath? Most of the time no one will introduce you to their single friends or fix you up.
It only happens on TV Its uncomfortable for others for you to sit in the Family pews at Church , so now I sit in the back with the rest of the freaks lol Why is shame somehow attached to grief and loss. Having the million dollar insurance policy is a MYTH. Be careful of Dating scams Your pets sometimes reject you. Sometimes your finances are a wreck, even if you were organized and on time before. Sometimes your Boss has no tolerance for your altered state, and sometimes your mind will not go into gear like before.
So you struggle at work too.
Sometimes and most of the day, you will be held hostage inside your head. No its not dementia Sometimes we need to just be with ourselves as opposed to being by ourselves, there is a difference. Animals mourn too.
Each person and animal copes in their own way and everyone needs to time to readjust. Get the pet back if you can. Why would you want to get rid of someone who loved the same person as you? This is so so true—relatives not speaking—I cant figure it out—your words help—Im not alone—thank you-. The dying part is hard enough.
- From Last November…!
- Treacherys Wake (D&D Retrospective).
- Once There Was a Little Family (Reflections on Grief, Bad Decisions, and Moving On) - Amy Walton.
- 64 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me About Grief.
- The Shotgun House (The Shotgun House Series Book 1).
To think that the collection of atoms that came together to create the you, that is you, is impressive in itself. Then, assigned such atoms actually obtain the ability to be aware of their own existence? Even though I am circling the proverbial drain I am still in awe. It is not the dying part that bothers me , it is the permanent part of the equation that throws me for the loop.
The worst is the look of anguish in the face of my mother. My father and siblings have accepted the fact I shall not plan for my next birthday. Why can she not do the same? Wendy, she thinks I have no right to do such a thing to her. She is so distraught She is also correct. From your response, I sure hope you did not have to bury a child!!! The 10 mg of morphine helps so much. I do not like the other pain relievers as they tend to wipe me out. I am sad for you and your family. Mom is devastated and one big reason is that there is nothing she can do to protect you.
Your Dad must be covering it well, but I am sure it is killing him inside. There is nothing good parents would not do to keep you with them, make the pain stop, talk with you openly without being afraid to completely melt down. If you can, comfort those around you individually. We are so small in the universe, and what we are made of is even smaller still. But, at the very end, which we still have not found in an atom, or at the end of the universe is some sort of electrical energy, a spark.
In us, the spark makes it possible for us to grow and become. In us humans, it is the beginning of a being that is self aware. That awareness allows us to learn, about, ourselves, and others, our similarities but also how unique each of is.
- Once There Was a Little Family… (Reflections on Grief, Bad Decisions, and Moving On)?
- Passing Reflections: The Journey Through Grief?
- Passing Reflections Volume Ii The Journey Through Grief.
- Dawn of Memories: The Meaning of Early Recollections in Life.
There is your body, and then there is your spirit. They are intertwined right now. You r family will miss your spirit. Who you really are. Call a member of a family in and let them cry with you. Especially your Dad.
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He needs it. You are his son. There is no bigger loss. Biggest fear of death, other than pain and the unknown, not being remembered. Help them remember you when the spark goes out and God steps in. I want to also add that after you move on, she may feel that her arms are empty.
My son and his wife buried their newborn baby this past June. We knew she was going to die when she was born as she had no lungs. She lived for about an hour. Their arms feel empty, They are incomplete until they all will be together again. I believe that you will still be you beyond the veil and that the veil is very thin. Cross with nothing left unsaid. That is your greatest gift to them.